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My observations is that kids/teens/young adults in some parts of this American landscape are removed from what really goes on in the city, different parts of the country and don't have the actual experiences or even want to have an experience where things are hard. They have had things done for them, sheltered because we want to exclude damaging experiences. Hence everyone gets a trophy so no one feels bad.Parents getting themselves and kids into political fights before they can articulate ideas and feelings. I completely understand the logic here but it is one of the most damaging ways to bring up a child. You learn that some people have more money, opportunities, better family structures, safe malls, and that it APPEARS their lives are perfect. Again it is what is sold to us, not reality. it is better for a child, young adult, teen to know that there will always be someone better than you and worse than you. Some people are handed things, other are not, there are multiple rules of justice and basically the world is not fair. To parents who have kids who have failed and gotten back on their feet there are no award shows, its just what they have to do.

Many parents work hard, two jobs sometimes, laid off, transition from one career to another. The economy doesn't care about you, nor does your employer, your healthcare, sometimes the people around you just don't care. They have seen this pattern in their parents, grandparents older siblings, seen a part of the world that is not responsive to their predicament. Why work? If you function better at 10 am but you have to be there at 8, you have to figure out how much caffine you need to get started. Maybe this new economy will usher in greater compassion, or it could go the other way, everyone but four people struggle day to day. Kids often repeat the patterns they see in their parents lives. It takes a certain person to break those chains.

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Lisa Brown's avatar

I think you’re right. I think you’re definitely on to something.

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